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A continual mountaintop experience emerson people: Don't expect to be happy all or even most of the time i am not an optimist but i strive to be hopeful everyday happiness is not a continual mountaintop experience it is the daily collection of innumerable small pleasures cultivate modest satisfaction and institutions and people to be grateful for.
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- Don't expect to be happy all or even most of the time i am not an optimist but i strive to be hopeful everyday happiness is not a continual mountaintop experience it is the daily collection of innumerable small pleasures cultivate modest satisfaction and institutions and people to be grateful for. For more information and download the previous services go to usf orgnar monthly newsletter weekly flame and much much more. William blake. Sad to see the world. In a grain of sand. Honda heaven. In a wildflower to hold infinity in the palm of your hand. And eternity in an hour. Meaning of us have had the blessing. I'm looking at an ordinary object. Continue the world. I'm looking at a passing bit of nature. I'm experiencing perfection. Holding the whole universe. And i only embrace. And in special hours in our life feeling completely timeless. Love is the spirit of this church. And service is it's prayer. This is how it breaks companies. 212 together in peace. To seek the truth and freedom. And to help one another. We are fortunate to have mark sumner. Dr. mark sumner as i music director. His versatility is leadership abilities. His broadcasts his deep. Understanding and beautiful voice. Mega choir shine in our music program a continuing source of congregational fulfillment. Our choir is such an important part of our community. They represent us so well abroad and week after week. Here at home. Like readjusted. They help us one. To sing. Their members model for us congregational engagement and activist. Rick elaine coaches are great organ and direct our jubilant bell choir. The fill this magnificent sanctuary and keep our souls. Vibrating throughout the week. Let's rise and salute our music program leaders. I don't want you to open your hymnal. I want you to put them away. Put away the hymnals. Put away the hymnals please. Put the words on the program but they're real simple all we're talkin about is sabbath peace. Just 2 words you can do that without a program. So we're going to go through it twice as lot of repetition. I'd like us all to sing it like we meant it. 4k. In the spirit of festivity that this song is meant to be. America get it started. Delete your hands-free for a clap. One of the great joys of being entertained universalist. Is that we are free to reflect upon and to celebrate. The most worthy elements of every. Human. Wisdom tradition weather that is some fresh scientific breakthrough. Or ancient wisdom former owner others face cuz i got this right now. Thank you. This has allowed unitarians since emerson and thoreau. Define worthy an important spiritual insights and practices. From each of the great historic religions for us. And since with universalist since olympia brown and clarence skinner. Define worthy and important spiritual insights and practices from each of the great historic religions for us. This is not. Simply finding ideas we agree with. Are witnessing interesting experiences from other traditions it is not. Spiritual tourism. It means actually adopting and practicing vital concepts. And inspiring rituals and practices from. Each of the other face. As we're doing this morning with the high holy days. I have found many ideas in some practices of judaism. Extremely. The most important in days each year in the jewish calendar or the high holy days in the autumn. This year the new year begins with rosh hashanah on september 17th. And concludes with yom kippur on september 26th. These days of all face the fact. The each of us. Makes mistakes. Does rum even evil. The people we love. Two other people. As participants and institutions and group. To nature. And to the universe. These ten days each year remind practitioners to. Balance their moral books. To get their ethical lives back on course. There are four steps in this process. First to admit that you have done the wrong. Second to say so to those you have wronged. Food to make amends for the wrongs you have done and forth to learn from the past errors and to do your best to stop repeating them. If those you have wronged are not dead or unavailable. You find others who are similar. A child. An old person. A fellow. Congregation member. And you practice your better behavior within. Central to what i value in judaism or it's wise insights that not only does each of us wrong life. That life also wrong spots. We are co-creators with creation. And creation itself appears. To make mistakes. So just as we ask for others lie. And life's forgiveness of us for our transgressions. So we need to have a large enough heart and soul to forgive others. Even to forgive life and creation. Curacao. My favorite holiday story that reflects on these ikea. Famous teacher students ask him how best to celebrate yom kippur. The day of atonement. He sent his students to secretly observe. A common traits for some practicing this annual ritual. They watch to his shop window. Has she took down a big book. And opened it. And shed. Here are the sins that i have committed against others. I have told him so. And making amends. And trying to learn from my mistakes. Also all the sins i have. Committed against you creation and creator. In this last year. I admit my errors seek forgiveness. And promised to make amends by my change behavior. The students were impressed. But as they began to turn away one of the students said wait wait. Look. And they turned back and the trade man was taking down an even larger book. The tradesman continue. Creation. This. Book contains all the sins that you creation and creator. Have done against me and mine in this last year. As you can see. Much larger than my humble since. But as you have forgiven me on this day of atonement. So i forgive you. And he drank a toast to life line. Today's reading is the great surmise. By the referent cross scoville. From the very essay of 1994. The great surmise says simply this. At the heart of all creation lies a good intent. A purposeful goodness. From which we come. By which we live our fullest. Tooth which we shall at last returned. And this is the supreme reality of our lives. This goodness is ultimate. Not fake nor freedom. Not mystery. Energy. Ordered nor finitude. But this good intent in creation is our source. Our center. And our destiny. And with everything else we do in life. The strategies and schedules. The technology and tasks. With all we must know of freedom. Tape and finitude. Of energy and order and mystery. We must know this. First of all. The love from which we were born. Which bears us now. And which will receive us at the end. Our work on earth is to explore and joy and share this goodness. To know it. Without reserve or hesitation. Too much of a good thing you said mae west. Is wonderful. Sound. Doctrine. Do you see how the grapes are my stands all our logic and morality on its ear. Neither duty. Nor suffering north progress. Nor conflict. Not even survival. Is the aim of life. But joy. Deep abiding. Uncompromised. Joy. Music of nature do for me everyday. I don't get to a concert i don't get to a service people wonder what. Ministers duet services cuz they put them together. We enjoy the music. There's so much beauty in the world. Each of us is a unique element of. Creation itself. If we do not do the most worthy acts of which. We are capable. They may be lost to the world. Let your light shine. Black you're logged are a rich. Harvest of good. Help to build up a worthy world. Instead of wasting time tearing creation down. Do the good of which you are capable. Now. This little light of mine different tradition. Agosto. This little item going to let it shine everywhere i go i'm going to let it shine building up world i'm going to let it shine you don't need your brother. We live in a busy world we try it. Filling up to the brim all the time. Pretty soon if you don't. Keep a little. Quiet time a little silent senior days. Call just rushing by. Show the silent. in a. Group worship. Intergroup. Spiritual experience is. Web same to you. Friends take 10 minutes a day. If you don't have time to stop everything. And get off. That wheel. And just be quiet. And try to figure out what it's really all about and why you here and what's important. You're going too fast. Last weekend service we heard about a gentleman that. Winter glide mini sunday mornings and then he turned around and came here afterwards and. The minister then asked him what the two experiences were like and he said well. Being at glide was like a hot bath. And then he came to. You use decided it was like a cold shower. I don't know about most of you but i don't usually take a hot bath or cold shower. I usually take a warm shower. Because i. Like my showers and my. Services stimulating but also comforting. I like to kind of cake. That time in the week to get rid of the nonsense in the waste in the sweat. But also to feeling brakes that the end of the service so. So i like a hot shower right now. Warm service. We also share the reading by henry david thoreau about individual integrity and individual integrity is very important to every human being and certainly in this. Body nomination. But i want to remind you that. Individual integrity is not an individual creation you don't do it all by yourself. And you don't maintain it all by yourself. Henry david thoreau when he was staying at walden. Ponder. He was shot. He was building his cabin on emerson's land. And you only had a mile to walk into concord where he could see his friends and then he could stop by emerson's house and this is emerson sertima nice warm meal. Show individual integrity. The creation is parents and. Family and friends and teachers and. And then the maintenance is not just yourself but spouse or. Children friends. Colleagues. But we already talked about happiness. Visit silly to seek happiness. With our sometimes cynical outlook then i'll penetrating criticisms of. The world and exercise. Are we being realistic intellectuals or simply trying to justify our own negativity. Being positive or negative is not being about being smart or dumb. It's about thinking and acting broadly and deeply. Rather than narrowly and selfishly. Bad things do happen. Life is not always fair. We all face suffering failures disappointment. Most of us occasionally feel abandoned. I'm betrayed. And we all finally.. Life in the world contain tragedy that question is how we can usefully respond to pain suffering and death. Pain is telling us to make a change. Suffering can be transformative. I'll send it to you can help us overcome inertia. And become realistic about the gaps between our expectations. Abilities and are cheap. Tragedy and unhappiness can give us the courage to take risks. To ask for help. And to make the compromises we all need to make in order to secure community. If we use our woe to learn to avoid or realistically live with life's flaws. Enter solve or deal with our problems negative emotions and moods candy helpful. Do many people are popping pills as a permanent solution to their inadequate responses to life. The number has double. Since 1998 in america. If we learn from our mistakes face up to our limitations focus on our actual modest needs. Become more loving less rigid. And fragile negative emotions can be transformative. Otherwise negative emotions are a waste. Of time and energy. If your sadness is larger than your actual tragedy. Work hard at shifting your focus from danger threatened harm to stimulation rewards than mutual relationships. Get help from others. Most people emotional problems are resolved. There's a lot that each of us can do on our own. Get out in nature get better connected with other people sleep and exercise more. Take omega-3. And find enough intimacy and meaning in your daily life. So that your own. That you can face your problems and embrace life and your own limitations. We all need to do things that are mentioned manageable difficult. When we try to consistently use more than 80% of our capabilities we become chronically anxious and stressed. And when we consistently use. 4 less than 80% of our capacities. We get bored. Strive to be pleased rather than trying to be completely satisfied. Bob it is important. To try for excellence. Detroit to do the best that you can do. But the reality is that most of us are never going to be the very best at anything. Much less everything we try to do. Import of what i struggle with with people is so often in life now. If they can't. Get the excellence they don't do it. So i'll see people out in a congregation. And i there are we sunday a lot of sundays. And to get up but they don't sing. And i asked them and they said oh well i don't sing very well i understand why you're not in the choir. But why aren't you seeing. You know everybody needs to sing. Everybody needs to damn lucky people are quick to realize when they are fighting a losing battle. They cut their losses. And develop other options for winning at the game of life. Promotion psychology's history. It focused upon the most emotionally disturbed individual. Gradually a few psychologist begin to focus instead a bun high-functioning people duh. In 1993 martin seligman selectman then president of the american psychologically psychological association. Decided to turn his attention to healthy people. Now the field of positive psychology is exploding. With research courses and public interest. Here are some of the relevant. Findings. Hey hun. Happiness day do happiness research now. Happiness is how a person feels about what she is experiencing. We may be born with an emotional disposition. And our life circumstances or only partly within our control. But how we feel about what we are experiencing is almost entirely up to us. Have you heard the story about the two. Gentleman that was sitting at. The lunch counter at work they both had sack lunches as they did every day they shot together. And the one said to the other. I really hate this lunch. And after a while the other worker said well who makes your lunch or why do. You can be just as happy with a half-empty disposition. As i have full one. Use your half-empty disposition to have realistic expectations. Our circumstances as we all know it's partly a matter of luck. Modest wealth and good health. For instance are likely to make anyone happier. Yes up to a point. Internationally the research has found that if a family has about 20,000 after that they don't get much bounce for their buck. With more money. In the us maybe it's 75,000 i think right. But the point is that there are plenty of. Really healthy. Really rich people that are miserable. And there's a whole bunch of people that aren't either healthy. Or rich. Little quite happy. The trick is to like what you have. And if you really do find some aspect of your life insufferable. Make the necessary changes. People should escape toxic relationships. But that is often difficult to do. However your daily choices about what you do. And how you feel about them almost entirely up to you. Chilling man proposes that four primary factors. Foster will be good interpersonal relationships. Being engaged in what you're doing. Having a sense of larger purpose in your life. And feeling that you are cheating worthy goals. He suggests that we focus on our own and other people's signature strengths the things. You and others are good at. And enjoy doing. Many contemporaries are on a hedonistic treadmill. The more wealth or possessions. Power or status that get four. They get they wish for the more they need. In order to just be satisfied much less happy. You know how much the average american millionaire. Feels that they need in order to be secure. It's an interesting cell phone but i'd appreciate it being turned off. So how much does the average american military visionnaire that's a slip isn't it. Need to feel secure. Seven and a half million. Any desire can become obsessive. Almost as much of human happiness is in the anticipation in the memory. Experiences as in the actual experience. Weather this is sex. Vacation doing a job writing a book having a trial. Often in life. We replaced having experiences with just fantasizing about them. Since actually drink them up and seems too hard. Dangerous. Unlikely. Contemporary life offers a seemingly unlimited choices but only limited time and capabilities. Many people fill up their lives with mostly make-believe friends. Relationships. Communities and tasks. An excellent text. If you still read books. Is north carolina professor barbara fredrickson book positivity. She is found that people need to balance at least 426. Positive experiences or feelings with each - 1. Married couples parents. We're close friends with regularly less than five positive to one- or on a slippery slope to unhappiness. High performing teams are groups where those are businesses activist organization for congregation usually have six or more policy for every negative interaction. Low-performing groups usually have more negative interactions. 4 people throughout the world this was a twitter survey of 63 countries thousands of people. Happiness tends to peak between 6 and 9 in the morning. Forester low between 3 and 4 in the afternoon. And rises to another high after dinner they figure this is hunter gatherer stuff that we learned over you know hundreds of thousands of years. You are still kind of working with. I know it doesn't work for everybody. This is amazing that a whole lot of us are supposed to be highly productive at 3 in the afternoon if this is true. At this point i'm ready tired i take a nap. Ancient biological hunter-gatherer rhythms. Probably cost at people who have developed ideological clarity for off and happier because they have a clear sense of right and wrong. Have decided whom and what to avoid. And hooman what to cultivate. They perceive themselves as happy warriors they consciously limit their choices. Linda within. Parameters as it turns out. You know you. Most of us races at this point we got a zillion channels. But we only watch. Like 12 of them. Play olaf's. So we got lots of choices we have too many choices. You know if you really have no idea what you're buying in the grocery store did you notice those people with sometimes two cell phones talking to both their grandma off and their spouse you know what the same time which one should i buy there's 89 choices choices. Happiness and unhappiness are contagious so it's. Better to minimize contact with people that bring you down and a maximize contact with people that lift you up. Finding common ground with needy people. Very different from yourself hamby. Extremely satisfying. If. You are able to actually be helpful to them. And. Become generally empathetic and friendly with them. This means that you learn from them. And that they feel that they have truly given value to you. A lot of liberals don't understand it when they go out and they do some very nice random thing once. And the people don't feel really grateful. Relationships don't produce happiness or satisfaction in one big bang. Become gradually over considerable periods of mutual effort and respect. Expecting perfection. Well that everything will come out right is naive. Don't expect to be happy. All or even most of the time. I am not an optimist. But i strive to be hopeful everyday. Happiness is not a continual mountaintop experience. It is the daily collection of innumerable small pleasures. Cultivate modest satisfaction. Try finding institutions and people to be grateful for. Each day learn to detach. Obsessive thoughts mindless cravings and your inner critics. Connect with nature exercise regularly savor each morsel you choose to ingest and don't consume more than you can actually digest. Man is ihi find you know i'm liking food much. More and more work but i can eat less and less of it. You know without consequences. Pay attention to what actually makes you happy do more of that run what makes you miserable do less of that war get involved with joyful people avoid clutter and waste take control of your own life. Lexus buying experiences instead of possessions. We are what we do. And we value most what we give to others. Got a church. It turns out that many older people. Actually tend to be happy or probably because they have gotten their expectations and their achievements in better balance. Yes. Angie asked what kind of changes kathleen and i made. When. We retire. Retired three years ago. We moved out of a pretty big house. To a very small apartment. We. So when car. We got rid of about two-thirds of all possessions are no books. One of their extravagances international travel and so we made a list of the places we still have to go. While we're able to travel. And we took the one place a year. That's outside of the country. Instead of going to movies. We see if they last 2 netflix. And we seem at home and cook your own popcorn. Meemic changes. Enjoy where you are what you can do. We do lots of a hunting we do lots of volunteering. We get out in nature a lot. I'm enjoy life more than i ever have. And i enjoyed being a minister a lot. And i felt lucky almost 40 years with my vocation. And my education am i bringing but i'm happier than i've ever. Older people will often learn. Like what they have. Even though it is usually considered lee left. Then they used to think they could not live without. Is sterling service really is our usf prayer. Many of us are not playing very effectively. Meditation or reflection is not daydreaming. But clearing out our mental bad habits and moving beyond our self-imposed emotional imprisonment into a realization. That we can be vital elements of creation itself. Cynical hostility is not sophisticated wisdom. It is not sophisticated with them it is the best way to poison your own life. And the lives of the people around you. Now we're in an election season. If you think one candidate or party. Or. Initiative. Represent your interests. And the country's interest better than another. And don't be quiet. Speakable. Give money work. If you and if you. Don't think it makes any difference then don't complain for the next 2 or 4 or 6 or 8 years. Bratz. Useless cynicism and it's not helping anybody. We do not need to persist in lives of quiet or noisy desperation. People who choose to be regularly grateful toward life. And their surroundings are much more able to be. Effective service. To others and to actually help build a better world. You need to learn to concentrate upon what we give. Not what we get. What we share. Not what we possess or think that we can control. Then we can almost every day of our blessed lives. Celebrate the world in a grain of sand. Find a heaven. In a while. Hold infinity in the palm of our hands. And eternity in an hour. Show me. Now you get to use your hymnals. Sanders you willing and able would seem the last tim. Then after that to sit down and listen to the oregon. Posted. I was. Very imperfect organist in a small-time kansas church when i was growing up. And. Basically of course everybody gets up after the service soon. Leaves. And you been practicing all week. So i'm just delighted with this congregations practice. It is also accustomed to hold a somebody close to you for the benediction. Or shoulder or whatever is comfortable. Her closing words all by helen keller. When one door of happiness closes. Another door of happiness open. But most of us spent so long staring at the closed-door. That we fail to see the doors that of happiness that are being open for us. Brims. Don't stare at the closed-door. What could be open with. Have the courage to walk through them. And then share the. Share your joy. People around. I'm in. Hallelujah. And blessed be. Thanks for listening to this podcast.